I loved elementary school. I had friends and life was good.
But middle school was different. Five different elementary schools funneled into our middle school.
Middle school is generally when bullying starts and that’s what happened with me.
Then I went to high school where five middle schools funneled in, and there was just a total indifference. It was like being invisible. It’s not that I had no friends in high school, I did but there was a definite division between groups and ours was the odd group out. Strangely enough one of my classroom friends moved to California and went on to become a famous actress in Hollywood!
College was the best because in college you started with a clean slate. No one knew that you were unpopular in middle school and high school. They just became your friend because either they lived down the hall from you or you were in the same class and they simply accepted you for who you were.
A few weeks ago, I saw a play called “Dear Evan Hanson”. It was a story about a boy in high school who was pretty much ignored by the other students. He only had one friend and that was his cousin, who he said really was forced to be his friend by his mother.
So, Evan suffered from anxiety, and because of this, his mother had him seeing a psychologist to work out his issues. The psychologist gave Evan and assignment to write a letter to himself every day and here is how it would start:
Dear Evan Hanson,
Today is going to be a good day and here’s why……
Then he was instructed to list why the day would be good.
This assignment didn’t help him and at one point he ends up writing a letter about why the day is not good. A troubled high school boy ends up stealing the letter and then he commits suicide. The letter is mistaken by the adults who find it as a letter written by the boy who commits suicide to Evan Hanson. Then the story unfolds from there with the adults thinking Evan and this boy were friends and Evan now getting attention and enjoying it, fabricates a friendship with the dead boy. Of course, it gets him in trouble, but the audience is rooting for Evan the whole time because your heart really goes out to him. It’s a story every young person who struggles should see, but it’s also a story of courage, strength and the redemptive power of forgiveness.
The basic premise of telling yourself today is going to be a good day really isn’t a bad one.
No one wants to have a bad day and routinely we wish people a good day.
But wishing to have a good day or wishing someone else a good day doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to be a good day.
Each day comes with troubles of its own, the key is not to focus on the troubles but instead to focus on the blessing of each day.
I too, struggle with anxiety.
So, my thought today was to take the word “anxious” and restructure it.
- A and
- N now
- X (anxiety)
- I is
- U ultimately
- S (and) securely
Why? Because Jesus has me, God holds me, and the Holy Spirit guides me.
Nothing is going to happen today that I cannot handle through the power of three in me.
God is omniscient over my anxiety. He knows everything. He knows exactly what’s going to happen today.
Jesus’ death on the cross was omnipotent, God gave Him the power to take away the sin of the world which includes my sin of anxiety.
The Holy Spirit is omnipresent, God gave the Holy Spirit as a helper to overcome my anxiety.
We are to be anxious for nothing. So here’s my letter to myself.
Today is going to be a good day and here’s why:
The Lord is with you.
God sustains you.
The spirit guides you.
Go and share this knowledge and the love of God with others!
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6)